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Recent Articles
Allowing the Full Range of Adoptee Emotions: How Parents Can Help or Hurt
Have you ever wanted to make sure your adoptee doesn’t feel sad or mad about being adopted? What you need to know about adoptee emotions.
Colorado’s Baby Box Bill: My Testimony at the State Capitol
What is a baby box bill? What came up at Colorado’s senate hearing about it? Here’s my report from the floor, along with my testimony.
What We Get Wrong About Same-Race Adoption
Jennifer Dyan Ghoston, an adoptee and former police detective, shares her experience integrating herselves in a same-race adoption.
Inside Peek at the First Adoption Unfiltered Book Tour
Photo essay of the first book tour for new book Adoption Unfiltered, authored by an adoptee, a birth parent, and an adoptive parent.
Open Adoption Advice for Tricky Situations
Open Adoption is HARD (but worth it)
So many parents I’ve talked with are committed to openness in adoption because they understand how evolving from an Either/Or mindset to a BothAnd* heartset better serves everyone involved.
Regular old parenting can get tough, but add in emotionally-charged elements around adoption and things can get really hairy. No parenting guide can give all the answers, but once you know how to set your parenting GPS you’ll know how to find answers right for you in a particular situation.
* To emphasize the integrating of BothAnd, I deliberately do not use a hyphen.
To the Woman Who Longs to Be a Mom and Who Says “I Want a Closed Adoption”
I hear you when you say “I want a closed adoption.” I was there, too, and I had to unlearn a few things everyone “knows” about adoption.
“Real” in Adoption and how it Splits our Babies
When we talk about who is and isn’t real in adoption, we split the baby. Fortunately there is a better alternative to this Either/Or mindset.
How to Avoid Being Gobsmacked by your 18 Year-Old Adoptee
How can it happen that an adoptive parent doesn’t see it coming, their child connecting with birth parents? It’s no fun to be gobsmacked!
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Vignettes
Double Feature
Date Night Mishaps
The night my house broke up with me
A night with toddlers locked in my own personal panic room.
*thisclose*
My near-death experience, which went unnoticed by everyone else.
Judgy McJudgerson
A woman at a street festival bugs the crap out of me in a 3-part saga. Judgy much?
Love & Family
Mom badge
I earned it. Holy crap, did I earn it.
My one-and-only pregnancy photo
Paulie, me and Sunny D. Funny (in a take-back-the-infertility kind of way) because I was never really pregnant.
Family of origin of the species
This explains a lot.
Grant Us Peace
3 part harmony with my sisters